Family: Homework for November 9th , Ms. サッカ
8. In my country, girls and boys have different standard. Girls should be at least 21 years old and boys should be 23. In my opinion, I think people should get married when they're mature for their mental or physical. Because they will face to something that they never meet and had many challenges. Although human being normally becomes mature for their bodies when they are 18 years old, the mental developments are quite different for everybody. I think in every period of your life, you should do something which fits your ages, and don't do the things that you just can do in thirties when you are teenage. If you do, most of them, I guess, will disarrange their lives. For me, I think I will get married in 26 or 29.
9. I will fell uncomfortable if somebody suggests me to do such a thing. I will just consider that I am preparing for divorce, which is only a problem of time. But I think I will make a contract with my wife by oral, rather than writing something down. Sometimes we may meet some problems, then we should have a discussion, have some communions. The main purpose is to solve the problem, but not sign some statements. We should know that we both take care our babies, we should both do the housework, and something so on. I guess not everybody will make a perfect marriage contract if they want to, because many problem are that they never meet and they should face to them together.
＃％＃ what is the signs when marriage goes bad?
Generally speaking, I think the most terrible thing is that couple loses their ardor to each other. The peaceful life after they get married becomes boring; they often have a spat for the housework, more or less. Sometimes they don't say a word for days. In fact, they really don't want to see such a situation, but they neither are willing to say sorry at first. Then when the time goes on, the hurt goes go. Then the ardor continues losing, they become coldhearted to each other and they will become to think it is time to apart.
Life is common and sometimes is boring, but the truth is beauty. Some marriage ends just because of tiny things so nobody will be a winner after they are apart. If you were someone who just face the problem, for the first several times, I advise you to talk with your wife/husband or red some books introduce the different between male and female, because most of divorce can be avoided easily.
Hope everybody a beatific marriage.
Jackie Yuan
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