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Four of my journal

1. “Forever single”?

I read an article named “Forever Single” which was written by Hope Hamilton. It is a short one and writes about her feeling of marriage. In the article she said that she had a perfect boyfriend and they love each other every much, but when he asked her to marry, she has decided not to get married after a careful thinking.

Her boyfriend is well-educated, intelligent and kind. He has a well-paying job. They lived together for years and loved each other very much. But still, Hoped said that “Marrage changes people and I do not want to be tried to just one person all of my life. I enjoy being free.”

I feel a little bit sad after I read Hope Hamilton's story. She told us so straightly that marriage was not the best relationship in our li v es. It seemed that the image of marriage changed a lot in people's minds, especially in the youth.

The divorce rates had been up to 50% several years ago in America . But I am sure that there must be some pairs of the couples in the rest half who aren't feel happy to live together; the relationship is no longer as firm as the one 20 or 50 years ago. “There are too many cool people in the world.” said Hope Hamilton. But perhaps she doesn't realize that she had also bec a me a cool person, the same as the ones in her comments.

Sometimes I also feel that the people around me are becoming more independent and self-centere d . A lot of bad examples in news, movies or people's chatting made them be sacred of marriage. They had lost their belie f s once they had, because from a child, most of the information they received is the news about divorce, separating, or violence in family. Naturally, they won't believe that marriage will bring them happiness or romantic. ―― I can understand it.

But there is an interesting example of marriage. I've heard that after 9 ? 11's attack, a lot of people in New York remarr ied or got married because they experienced this attack and they became underst oo d that how fast and precious the life is. So most of them chose the marriage. I think it's the same to the people who experienced the war and still alive after it. They know what the life means and what the beatific means.

People always change in different periods when a society changed. In China , it seems that people also face th is problem in the peace times now. They don't want to be tied by the marriage. They want to be free. I am still young and none of my friends had marriage. But a lot of them once had a girl or a boyfriend and they were apart very fast. When we talked about on that, they always made me feel that they don't trust true love. They don't want to be marriage as it will make them feel so tired. Maybe they're more independent than their parents and have their hopes and dreams. Maybe the image of the relationship ―― once was recommended as the most important and happiest thing in a person's life ―― marriage is apart from t he youth. Maybe when they are in their 5 0's, 6 0's or even older, after they had came through half of their lives, they would realize that they need a family.

I also had a divorce with my first girlfriend. My attitude to love and marriage once changed a lot at that time right after our divorce. I had no self-confidence and no longer believed the true love. But after nearly one-year peaceful time. I find I still believed that I will find the other part of my life, and I still trust marriage and family will bring me the happiness, no matter how many unimaginable things will happen in the future.

I still trust marriage !

2. The Golden week is coming!

Well, this is the first holiday after I got a car, so naturally, I planed to have a tour with my friends. Because of the separating of the 7 holiday, we cannot go very fat for the days, so we just planed to visited the place of interests in Fukui .

It is quite convenient to visit some place near by your car, especially together with the frienda. Although Fukui does have so many famous place as the big city like Tokyo , Kyoto , there are still quite a lot of temples, restaurants or some mountains worth visiting.

On the sunny Saturday, we set off for “Tou Jin Bo”, the most famous place in Fukui . To tell the truth, I was not very interested with the history of “Tou Jin Bo”, the biggest spotlight for me is the sea, the broad sea.

The first time I saw the sea is in my 10 years-old. The whole family hold our first tour to a small village near the sea. Just like what we did now. We prepare a lot of things and treat it as an very important thing. I brought my little tools because I hope that I can play on the beach and build my castle. I have forgotten the feeling when I first see the sea. I just remember, when the bus running and searched any corner of the sea. And it was also the first time for my parents. Another moment remained in my mind is when I first touch the sea. That afternoon I first went to swimming on the beach. The water was so cold and salty. Not like swimming in a pool, beside the beach, it was a great feeling that touch the water, just like touching a part of the earth. So huge it is. Until now, I still keep the photo that I played water on the beach. It was a unforgettable moment for me.

Here is another side of the sea. The water in “Tou Jin Bo” is much deeper and clearer as Japan was located in the ocean, surrounding with the sea.

Driving along the coast road is the greatest time in the tour. The sun if falling down and the color of the sky is changing every minute. You can imagine that but you could never feel it until you do it by yourself.

Well, I forgot to tell you who went with me. They're Robert and two girls who are also from my high school in Zhe Jiang: Zhu and Hu. We four guys again! J

3.

The days between two separated Golden Weeks are quite lazy days for me. No home works, no revision, no tests. A relaxing day!

At the lunch time, I sat on the grass chatting with my friends. First time sat on this grass; I realized that my campus was really wide open and beautiful. When I first read the introduction of this university, I was attracted by the pictures which showed the beautiful sites of the campus. This is really a new university. It was just built about 10 years ago so the equipments and the design of the campus are all the latest. After I came to this university, I was so eager to take a series of photos and show them to my parents and friends. (As I also like photographing very much) so in the future, I want to have a camera and bring it with me all the time. Then, I can take what I saw at anytime and share it to my friends and family.

We had a really good time yesterday, now we are planning the next tour. Well, the World Cup is hold soon in Japan , but Unfortunately, I couldn't buy the tickets as it has been sold out and the price is too high. But I do want to have a look and taste the feeling that World Cup is hold in the place I live in. that would be so exciting. I always imagine that I wear the T-shirt of some team I love (of course the perfect is China ) and colour my face, wave the flag or something else… that would be so crazy but I love to have a taste.

When I was sinking in my imagination, the noisy bell rang. Another two lessons are waiting for me, and I will stop here.

•  Badminton

I love badminton!

I started practicing play badminton from I was very young. O can still remember when I was 5 year old, every morning my mom and I play the badminton before my house. The first time I got a pair of rackets. They were made of wood and it's very short- the child-use rackets. At first, both of us didn't know how to play it well, just shutting to each other again and again. Someone said that everyone can play badminton but not everybody can play it well. That's quite true. It seems simple but in fact it is not so simple as everybodu see.

My mother seemed not to be my adversary any more, as I am growing up every day and becoming stronger. But still, playing badminton takes a lot of part of my separate time, especially in the morning.

I thanked my mom very much as we know that she couldn't play as well as she did before, but she still did her best. Then sometime, I know that she couldn't catch the ball so I hit the ball lightly to let her catch it. It was not practice any more; we were enjoying ourselves, the mother and the son. J

After I came here, I was surprised that almost everyone here are skilled at the badminton. Girls and boys can play it fluently. They master the basic skills and have the formal practice places. As from a child I had such a practice so I can keep a good balance when I jump or run. But what I need is the skills such like how to control the speed and cadences. As a boy, the strength is not a problem, but the agile ness is a key to win a context. Well, a good player doesn't use their arms quite a lot, instead, they use their wrist often. Using wrist to hit the ball can control the way the ball fly back to.

I used my scholarship to but a net and shoes for playing badmintons. So now I often play it when I was free. It let me feel free and relax. Maybe next year I will join in the badminton club. That's just a plan for me.

Last Update: 01/19/2004 0:21