Single? Married?
2002-6-11
I feel a little bit sad after I read Hope Hamilton's story. She told us so straightly that marriage was not the best relationship in our li v es. The image of marriage changed so much in people's minds, and these changes are continuing.
The divorce rates had been up to 50% several years ago in America . One of my English teachers told me that news. But I am sure that there must be some pairs of the couples in the rest half who aren't feel happy to live together; the relationship is no longer as firm as the one 20 or 50 years ago. There are too many cool people in the world. said Hope Hamilton. But perhaps she doesn't realize that she had also bec a me a cool person, the same as the ones in her comments.
I also feel that the people around me are becoming more independent and self-centere d . A lot of bad examples in news, movies or people's chatting made them be sacred of marriage. They had lost their belie f s once they had, because from a child, most of the information they received is the news about divorce, separating, or violence in family. Naturally, they won't believe that marriage will bring them happiness or romantic. I can understand it.
But there is an interesting example of marriage. I've heard that after 9 ?11's attack, a lot of people in New York remarr ied or got married because they experienced this and they became underst oo d that how fast and precious the life is. So most of them chose the marriage. I think it's the same to the people who experienced the war and still alive after it. They know what the life means and what the beatific means.
People always change in different periods in a society. In China , it seems that people also face th is problem in the peace times now. They don't want to be tied by the marriage. They want to be free. I am still young and none of my friends had marriage. But a lot of them once had a girl or a boyfriend and they were apart very fast. When we talked about on that, they always made me feel that they don't trust the true love. They don't want to be marriage as it will make them feel so tired. Maybe they're more independent than their parents and have their hopes and dreams. Maybe the image of the relationship once was recommended as the most important and happiest thing in a person's life marriage is apart from t he youth. Maybe when they are in their 40's, 50's or even older, after they had came through half of their lives, they would realize that they need a family.
I also had a divorce with my first girlfriend. My attitude to love and marriage once changed a lot at that time right after our divorce. I had no self-confidence and no longer believed the true love. But after nearly one-year peaceful time. I find I still believed that I will find the other part of my life, and I still trust marriage and family will bring me the happiness, no matter how many unimaginable things will happen in the future. I still trust marriage.
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